A 25-year-old British woman who became one of the country’s youngest full gender reassignment patients has said she doesn’t tell one-night stands that she used to be a man.
Deana O’Riordan argues that it’s inappropriate what gender she was born and believes that it’s none of her romantic partners’ business.
Deana underwent years of psychological torment growing up male at school and even tried to cut her penis off at the age of six.
However, after a sex change on the NHS four years ago, the Devon barmaid now feels very comfortable in her own skin and is enjoying her life as the woman she has always known she was.
In spite of Deana’s belief that she shouldn’t have to disclose her past to her partners, some have reacted furiously after finding out the truth.
The 25-year-old said: “I’ve been with guys who have not known about it.
“Obviously if I did date a guy and things were getting more intense I would tell them because it’s a part of my life, but if I’m just having fun like a normal girl would in their 20s, then I don’t have to explain myself.
“Afterwards, one of them said, ‘why didn’t you tell me?’ and I said, ‘I don’t come with a manual’.
“You met me for who I am, if you don’t like it, you know where the door is. I’ve gotten to this place in my life now.
“If a guy can’t accept me for me completely, why would I want to be with him?
“There’s no difference physically between me and a girl. If they can’t tell the difference, why should I tell them?”
Having endured the complex operation back in 2013, before her 21st birthday, Deana became one of Britain’s youngest full-reassignment patients.
After spending two-and-a-half years in a live-in relationship with a man, who was aware of her past from an early stage, Deana went on a series of one-night stands as she discovered her sexuality as a woman.
She said: “I was in a long-term relationship and lost my virginity when I was 22 with my first boyfriend. When I told him, he looked at me and said it didn’t matter, he loved me for who I was. We were together for two-and-a-half years.”
Even though some partners knew beforehand, Deana confesses that she failed to tell a few and that going forward, she won’t be bringing it up anymore.
“I’ve gotten myself into situations where I have had one night stands, I’ve had fun,” she said. “Some of them knew and some of them didn’t. The first guy I slept with after my boyfriend was a friend so he knew.
“Then I got caught up in an affair with someone which was awful. He knew. He dropped hints about it, but never discussed it, so obviously he didn’t care.
“But others didn’t know and couldn’t tell.”
The young woman had known she was different ever since she was a child, but added that her family had been supportive throughout her journey.
“My family were very open-minded. They never judged me at all. It wasn’t like one morning I woke up and decided to have the surgery,” she said.
“I’d lived like this my whole life. That’s how I grew up. When you know, you just know.
“There was one incident when I was six or seven. I tried to get a pair of scissors to cut my penis off, fortunately my mum’s friend saw and grabbed hold of them.
“I was close to doing it. I remember it like it was yesterday.”
Today, Deana says that in spite of receiving lots of attention, she doesn’t have time for men and wants to take time to concentrate on herself instead.
“I get loads of male attention but I can’t be bothered,” she said. “I don’t have time to date guys right now. Even sex right now, I just don’t care. I’m focused on myself.”