Most of the people just want to tear apart the clothes and just do it when they are driven by lust and make the most of the moment. It feels like they are on fire and would want to keep it that way as long as possible.
Meanwhile, scheduling s*x is often considered for parents or couples who have lost the spark. But, turns out that couple who plan it may actually be having more fun. The planned act seems to be producing more satisfying results, according to a study from Ruhrh University in Germany.
Nearly 1000 couples were part of the study and they discussed issues with sexual dysfunction, how easily they became aroused, how often they were having s*x, and how they felt about s*x in general.
The participants also rated their personality and their partner’s in terms of extroversion, agreeableness, conscientiousness, neuroticism, and being open to new experiences.
General thought would be those who are super sexually open, extroverted types have amazing s*x. But, in reality, researches found a strong correlation between a person’s conscientiousness – meaning their thoughts, their level of planning, and their consideration of their partner – and how satisfied they and their partner were in bed.
Now, this could point to many sexual factors.
Conscientious people likely spend more time focusing on their partner’s pleasure, which will lead to better sex all round. They might be more willing to dedicate significant time to foreplay because they want to do things thoroughly and well.
But conscientious people are also the types who tend to plan and think ahead – and the research offers evidence that you don’t have to be a spontaneous risk taker to have a satisfying sex life. Planning in advance isn’t uncool – it’s sexy.
The key is not to panic if your sessions do not have those kitchen encounters or morning orgasms, as long as you are satisfied and happy, everything’s perfect.
Communicate, take your time to make sure everyone’s satisfied, and do what feels right without worrying about what your sex life ‘should’ look like.