Three friends living in Sydney who established ‘sexual empowerment’ orgies in say their business is booming, with over 20 people participating in their regular sex parties.
Business partners Tomas, Felicity and Niki created Sensual Erotica as a safe place for people to explore their sexuality.
Sensual Erotica play parties are described as ‘conscious orgies’, set up to give ‘players’ the power to create their own freedom and express their desires in a safe environment.
For Tomas, who used to be afraid he didn’t measure up against other men in his girlfriend’s eyes, the orgies have helped him explore sex and sexuality.
‘It’s about exploring all the different ways to be intimate,’ he said.
‘Before my first orgy I was scared that my girlfriend would fall in love with a guy that was bigger, fitter and hotter than me.
‘I wanted to explore sexuality but didn’t know how and was afraid.’
‘But through that experience and afterwards I realised it was important to elevate past fear and into possibility.’
Tomas and his partner now enjoy a closer relationship and have a better understanding of intimacy.
On Sunday, around 20 people will come together to participate in an orgy at a secret location in Chatswood, in Sydney’s north.
An entry-level experience, the parties are invitation-only and can run for over four hours, often hosted in private apartments or a member’s home.
Each person has been invited with the understanding that they share the desire of creating a consensual sexual experience.
‘We have clear conversations as a group at the start of the event so everyone is connected in consent,’ Niki said.
‘Then the rest of the time is for play!’.
Niki had previously attended several parties but ‘found that most had alcohol or drugs, and players that were very loose about consent and agreements’.
‘The people and places were not as clean and safe as I needed to feel comfortable,’ she said.
‘I found myself having conversations about safe sex, boundaries, agreements and consent.
‘The fact that this was a new conversation for the other players was alarming to me.’
Niki and Tomas launched the initiative together in February, after previously experiencing poorly structured, unorganised sex parties.
The pair said they invited friends ‘who we thought would be a good fit and 17 people turned up’ at their first orgy.
Tomas said that party was a ‘dream come true’, and it was here that the pair met Felicity.
‘I felt I’d found my tribe,’ Felicity said.
She was quickly invited to join the organising committee and the trio became ‘fast friends’.
The Chatswood party will be the fifth for Sensual Erotica, who have gained 100 members on their Facebook page since they launched.
Single females pay $60 a ticket to participate in a ‘play session’, while mixed couples pay $110.
There are no options for single males to join and each session is a strict drug and alcohol-free zone.
Niki, who is also an orgasmic transformation coach, believes an ‘orgasm is the best drug in the world’.
Instead, chai tea is served in place of alcohol.
The three friends are firm believers in sexual empowerment through consent-based connection.
In a post on the groups Facebook page, members are reminded that all sex must be with condoms ‘no matter what’.
Phone are banned at all times and there are clear rules on consent.
‘Yes means yes, No means no, maybe means NO!,’ the post reads.
While the locations and members may vary, one thing remains the same – to engage in consensual sexual experiences.
Tomas, who describes himself as a ‘play concierge’, said the sessions are about open communication for each individual’s desires.
No matter what level of experience you have I will guide you to have what you want,’ he said.
Felicity added: ‘It’s a place where desire leads and everyone in the room learns, via games, how to communicate what they really want and need.’
The trio share their own experiences and discoveries about their sexual desires and encourage others to join.
‘Drop whatever preconceptions you have and try it first,’ Tomas said.
‘Follow your desire and let that be your compass. Find your yes.’
Felicity encourages people to ‘ask for what you want’, while Niki said to just ‘slow down’.
‘Know yourself so you can feel your desires and boundaries,’ she said.
The trio believe there is a natural human curiosity about sex and very few people understand their own desires, let alone that of their partner.
‘When you peel back all the stigma and rubbish connected to sex, what’s left is pure unadulterated primal connection that can be powerfully healing and intimate,’ Tomas said.
For Niki, Sensual Erotica allows her to ‘reclaim personal freedom through sexuality’.
‘It’s safe, it’s clean and it’s beautiful,’ she said.